Navigating ferocious seas

When it comes to our families, we sometimes see only our differences. We see the way our parents cling to ideas we don’t believe, or act in ways we try not to act. We see how practical one of our siblings is and wonder how we can be from the same gene pool. From Daily Om: We Are Family

For me, visiting home (it's surprising that in my mind the house I grew up in still resonates as home given I haven't lived there in over 15 years), spending time with siblings and parents and especially over holidays generally means fear and sometimes nightmares.

Definition -- in my lifetime, I have had only one or two of the typical nightmares where someone chases me or I fear for my life/well-being in some way. My nightmares usually consist of someone (usually a family member) being "mean" to me or not sticking up for me when someone else is being "mean" to me. Clearly a window into my insecurities and perhaps into the beliefs I hold about myself and how I developed them.

So, Christmases and Thanksgivings are fraught with tension for me -- I want to be there but I am afraid of what will happen. We all seem to regress into our worst teenage selves as we cross the threshold of my parents' house. It doesn't help that my mother enjoys drama, especially if it means pitting one against another. Perhaps this is the lingering side affect of watching too many soap operas and/or novelas.

Each journey for me, then, must begin with prepping -- I have tried many strategies, but, invariably, all my good plans fall apart. Either I am not strong enough or I just misjudge the number of days my strength (and plan) will hold out. Eventually, the rubber band snaps, striking both me and the nearest target. This may or may not be the one who broke through my armor, flimsily attached as it was.

I alternate between swearing off seeing them and recommitting myself to "not letting them get to me." I guess what I have realized (or maybe just stopped fighting the realization) is that my achilles' heel is hope. Every time I believe this will be the time when they and I will behave in such a way so as not to cause irritation, anger, hurt feelings, and/or bitter resentment/utter disgust. Then one of us falls and when the anger or hurt subsides, I am left feeling utterly bereft and disillusioned. Ah, failure. Limiting my time there can sometimes avert the crash and burn, but it hardly seems like an adult solution. There goes the hope again. Maybe denial or lackof grounding in realityare better ways to describe it. Perhaps recognizing my and their limitations is a very adult solution.

Still hoping for the universe to grant me the patience, compassion and love for all of us in this situation -- though I know it is a question of me working through it.

Hope

It's a long article, so I won't re post it in its entirety. But, I recommend this article as the antidote to cynicism, hopelessness and overall malaise. This is my Christmas present to you (dear readers, the universe, Santa Claus).

Here are some of my favorite parts:

Parents at an elementary school here gathered last Thursday afternoon with a holiday mission: to prepare boxes of food for needy families fleeing some of the world’s horrific civil wars.

The community effort to help refugees resembled countless others at this time of year, with an exception. The recipients were not many thousands of miles away. They were students in the school and their families.
...

The three conceived of a school that would include hours of individual attention and an empathetic environment. They hoped to model it on the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s notion of “the beloved community,” where people of all races, nationalities and classes were accepted, and on the common schools established in the 19th century by Horace Mann.
“The mission,” Ms. Thompson said, “was never to create an enclave for refugees only, because that would just separate them more.” The founders saw this formulation as not just idealistic but practical. Studies have shown that low-income students benefit academically from exposure to middle- and upper-middle-class students. And Ms. Thompson and her colleagues believed that exposure to a wide range of cultures and ethnic backgrounds would appeal to affluent, socially minded parents....

Despite these challenges, the school grew. A new grade was added each year. A second campus was opened in space rented from another church a few miles away. Volunteers poured in, mostly retired teachers and students from nearby Emory University and Agnes Scott College.
All the while, administrators and teachers said, the school took its energy from the optimism many of its students had toward their new lives in the United States. Sometimes that optimism was hard to miss. One second grader from Congo is named Bill Clinton. ...

Parents from low-income families tend to choose the school over other nearby public schools because it is safe and has small classes. More affluent parents seek it for the potential benefits of exposure to so many cultures. Most of the middle- and upper-middle-class parents are social progressives from Decatur, a liberal enclave. But not all. Harvey Clark, whose son Zade is in the fifth grade, is a veteran of the Persian Gulf war and a Nascar fan. “They’re getting exposed to cultures that they normally would not be exposed to except in National Geographic,” Mr. Clark said of the American children. “Instead of my boy having to go off to war to meet foreign people, he can do it here in town.” ...

All good. But nothing beats the story about the friendship between Dante (American born student) and Soung (recently arrived refugee from Burma), these are excerpts, not the whole thing.

Consider the friendship between Ms. Ramirez’s 9-year-old son, Dante, and Soung Oo Hlaing, an 11-year-old Burmese refugee with dwarfism. Dante likes to read Harry Potter books and to play Shrek on his Wii video game console. ... Until he arrived last summer, Soung had lived in a refugee camp in Thailand. He spoke no English. ... The two boys met on the first day of school this year. Despite the language barrier, Dante managed to invite the newcomer to sit with him at lunch. “I didn’t think he’d make friends at the beginning because he didn’t speak that much English,” Dante said. “So I thought I should be his friend.”

I mean, come on, how sweet is that? Though we often make the observation that children have a great capacity to be cruel, we could just as easily comment on their infinite capacity for love and compassion.

I would say this of all children, and this continues to be my protest against going overseas to do "good" work before doing it here at home:

“When you see those kids who are as positive as they are, and you know what kind of problems they’re going through,” Mr. Moon said, “you just say, ‘This is worthy of my best shot.’”

remembering

I realized as we were pulling out of my childhood hometown today on our way to my sister's new town that I had not gone to the cemetery this trip.

One of my Christmas rituals is to visit the cemeteries. My mother's parents and a host of friends and relatives are buried in one and my father's parents and a few other relatives are buried in another.

It must be said that I enjoy going to cemeteries as you may have noticed. I have included famous cemeteries on my vacation trips and routinely visit the cemetery in my neighborhood though I don't personally know any one buried there. I find them calming in a way that I am not sure I can describe fully.

This trip, though, with no car of my own and a severely limited timetable, the trip to the cemetery didn't happen.

I feel sad and guilty. As a child, we would regularly visit my grandparents, clean their area, bring them flowers, say a little prayer. My parents didn't like to linger at the cemetery, but they seemed to have a commitment to the visit. I felt close to those grandparents, all gone from the earth by the time I was 12, in an odd ethereal way. In the cemetery, those grandparents could be whatever I wanted them to be and I was whoever they want me to be. It's an odd way to look at it, I am sure, but there you have it.

A classmate, friend and old crush died twenty years ago this Christmas. He is on my regular visit cycle. Every year at Christmas, and sometimes other times of the year too, I spend a little time with Jaime at his grave. I feel guilty about not spending more time thinking about him and the waste it was for him to die when we were 17. Certainly at some times of my life, his death has weighed heavier on me than others. It was always comforting to go to his grave and find it decorated. I was reassured that though I may be far away there were others remembering and loving him from closer by. Last year, at his grave, there were little or no decorations. I wondered if his family might have moved. I was sad to think they had moved on emotionally, though you couldn't really fault them for it. How many years would it take to not feel guilty that this is where his life had led him when our lives had gone on? I wept this year recalling that it had been 20 years. He's been dead longer than he was alive and he is still that fresh young face in my memory.

To be completely honest, Jaime lives on in my life not only out of guilt or sad nostalgia; his spirit is frequently present with me. I know that he has long been one of my guides, watching over me with my grandparents. Truthfully he watches my life more like a soap opera than as a sage offering advice, but when I remember, thinking about his presence lightens my load.

Perhaps that is why it was all the more sad for me to not have made it to visit him this year. He doesn't forget me and I don't want him to think that I have forgotten him.

Merry Christmas, Jaime.

The Happiest Place on Earth

Originally from 12.19.06


Lest you think I am just another sheep following the bell, I know that there is more to life. There are many parts of the day that made me wonder about how much fun I was having and what this all meant in terms of the many counter-culture beliefs I hold dear. Though, I am strong enough to know the difference between enjoying and believing. I do, however, understand the importance of teaching our children this difference.

The fact is I had a great time. The parts that stand out in my mind:
1) helpful, cheery employees (frankly, I don't care if they were faking it; it is a nice reprieve from the many sullen teenagers I must deal with in any retail establishment).
2)The rides at Disney are designed to fill your senses, not just provide spills and thrills. The advent of 4D only adds strategies and components, the same love of a stor is present.
3) mental health issues aside, it is still awe inspiring to me that one man made his dream a reality; even if his dream was all about fantasy. It really can be a good thing -- in moderation.

The Giving Season

At this time of the year, those of us who have a little change rattling in our pockets (or savings accounts) may turn our thoughts to charity, end of the year giving and, of course, tax benefits.

I read with interest this little article (also heard something on NPR about the topic) about those who try to tease out which charity is doing the best with the least amount of money.

Don't get me wrong, I check into the charities before I give. Rather, I do now after realizing that some of my favorite charities weren't living up to the hype.

Listening to a conversation on the radio, though, about this, I came to the conclusion, as did the guests, that the best you can really do is be involved with the organizations. Get a bird's eye view. So, it is hard to do with national organizations, but really possible with local organizations.

At the moment, I am down to only two charities, though in more flush times, there was at least one more that I routinely supported. (The little donations to support friends and colleagues with a particular fundraiser don't count for me. I am supporting the person running or walking not so much the organization.) My two are NPR (my local station KQED) and Family Builders.

I feel as though I really do owe NPR/KQED lots of cash. I am a news junkie and would have the news programs delivered directly into my ears if I could. Oh yeah, I kind of do. Sometimes I stream the local radio station. Love The NEWS Hour at 3pm. But, I also use NPR's media player where I can add in all the stories I want to hear and if I don't get to it or the browser crashes, well, it remembers what I wanted to hear. The small amount of money I set aside for these services, well, it just doesn't compare to the hours of listening pleasure. That is not even mentioning the many, wonderful shows I catch on the PBS TV station (also KQED). As soon as I have more money, I will be augmenting my gift. Except for during the pledge times (where I have been a volunteer, what fun!), where there is an incessant stream of musical offerings (not MY cup of tea), I love to watch PBS. Free, no cable needed, and usually a good picture with my antenna.

I sit on the board of Family Builders, so I see first hand the incredible work they do. This is a case where quantity is not the issue. You could spend a tiny bit of money on a lot of people with so so results and call it a success (I have worked at these such organizations). Creating lasting families and relationship bonds between people is simply not a low cost proposition. Family Builders makes a lifetime commitment to the families it brings together, modeling the behavior it would most like to see its clients emulate. When I chose to sit on Family Builders and not some other adoption agency/foster care organization the biggest selling point was the after care.

No other agency that I investigated took the time to both train the families (preplacement) AND support those families for life (postadoption). In the intervening years, the organization has continued to show foresight and compassion for the children in foster care. Long committed to finding homes for the "hard to place" child, read over 4 years old or physically/mentally disabled or just not whte, Family Builders has led the way in helping those youth who are still in foster care in their teens and facing the possibility of "aging out" of the system. For those not in the know, that means getting put on the street to take care of yourself at the age of 18, often with no money in your pocket and all of your belongings in a garbage bag. Family Builders has crafted programs and advocacy campaigns around this issue. You can and should read more about it on the website, though it is in process of being updated so bear with it if it's light on content at the moment.

All this to say, it is good to worry about where your money goes, but getting the most out of a dollar is not always the BEST you can do. And the best way to find out about an organization is to spend some time with its constituents and its employees.

Find the one you love and trust and give what you can.

Christmas and Family

If you have time, listen to the clip... it will bring tears to your eyes, I promise. And it will be worth it.

For all of you who, like me, sometimes have a hard time getting ready for Christmas...for all of you who, like me, feel battered by the commercialism...for all of you who, like me, want to feel warm and fuzzy about Christmas, but have a real hard time doing it, you need to hear Carrie Conley and her son talk about Christmas in their single-mom, low-income family.

If you don't have time to listen, you can read most of the text below, but you won't be able to hear the love in their voices.

Happy four days before Christmas, y'all...

p.s. just heard this one...too funny; listen and get into the spirit.
Generous jewish man plays santa.

Morning Edition, December 21, 2007 ·
When Carrie Conley's husband left in the early 1960s, she started raising six children on her own. She took a job at a hospital, delivering meals to patients as what was called "a tray girl."
Jerry Johnson, the youngest child in the family, was 5 years old when his dad left. Speaking with his mother recently, Johnson heard his mother repeat the question she asked at that time.
"Lord, what am I going to do with all these kids, by myself?"
The answers came in the form of lima beans, black-eyed peas and low prices on chicken necks. "Something to boil for every day of the week," Conley said.
"I cannot remember one Christmas that I didn't feel like the luckiest kid in the world," Johnson said. "Even though now I realize, we had hardly anything in terms of money."
"How did you hold all that together?" he asked his mother.
Conley said she would save up her sick days at work, going in no matter how she felt. Then in December, the company would pay her for the unused sick days.
More help came in castoffs, when wealthy families would clean out their toy chests at Christmastime and take a load of toys to the Salvation Army.
Conley would pick through them, finding the best ones for her children.
The result of those sacrifices: a big, happy Christmas for Conley and her kids.
"But I never did tell you it was a Santa Claus," Conley said, "because I said that I cannot give no man credit for what [I'm doing.]"
Johnson thanked his mom for her sacrifices, and for the good example she set for him and his siblings.
"I think it's helping us all be better parents," Johnson said.
"You know, my whole heart was my kids," Conley said." And the Lord blessed all of them. And I'm so grateful."
In 1975, Conley retired from Detroit's Outer Drive Hospital. Jerry was a sophomore in college at that time.
He later graduated from Washington University Medical School and received a degree in Internal Medicine and Pediatrics.
Produced for 'Morning Edition' by Selly Thiam. The senior producer for StoryCorps is Michael Garofalo.

now you're talking my language

Just when I was thinking that my graduate school goals were going to be another exercise in futility... I see this article about the Woodrow Wilson National Fellowship Foundation and their new president's dream to remake teacher education.

Little signs from the universe.

The Headline Says It All

"Lynne Spears' Book Delayed Indefinitely"

I did go on to read the article, though it was really unnecessary. If you feel the need, I gave you the link.

One -- I am less interested in the fact that this woman's 16-year-old daughter is pregnant than I am in the increase of teenage pregnancy in general or the latest phenomenon of single women wanting to be mothers without partners.

Two -- These are the days when I am so glad not to have cable. I am sick to death of having to hear about the details of the lives of young women who feel the need to not only ruin their own lives and poison their bodies but who also want to ruin the lives of their children. Please, don't give me any more details about this young woman's pregnancy and don't tell me what she does with the kid when she has it.

I do care about children forced into foster care because their parents lack the ability or will to care for them. I do something about it... www.familybuilders.org ... you can too.

Little Presents

Love this story. In a time when I feel like many reporters are writing the easy story with the widely available information and no depth, it's nice to know that there are folks out there getting to know a community, finding a hero and writing about it. Thanks, Erik!

It's definitely worth the complete reprinting. Enjoy!

December 17, 2007
American Album
Working Hard to Give Others a Better Beginning
By ERIK ECKHOLM
PHILADELPHIA — Lorenzo Compton did not have a promising start. His parents kicked him out at 17 for refusing to obey, he dropped out of the 12th grade when he got a girl pregnant, he served almost two years for drug dealing and he carries a bullet in his thigh.
At 43, Mr. Compton is again a force in the Frankford section of northeast Philadelphia — but this time as a one-man block patrol, as a mentor to countless young men, and as keeper of the keys to the fancy new football field that helps bring a ragged neighborhood together.
He rises at 5 a.m. to drive a school bus, his paying job. After work, he makes sure his three younger sons do their homework.
And then, most every weeknight and weekend, Mr. Compton makes the short drive from his house to Gambrel Field to inspect the turf before practice begins. Mr. Lorenzo, as he is called with respect, has been deputized to watch over the $2 million field, an emerald oasis of AstroTurf with night lighting and an electronic scoreboard.
It is home to the Frankford Chargers football teams, which occupy the evenings, weekends and dreams of 400 local boys ages 5 to 14, mainly low-income black and Hispanic children from single-parent households, including many from the rough public housing project next door.
On a recent evening, Mr. Compton unlocked the gate a little before the flood of boys in red uniforms and helmets arrived. Like an overprotective parent, he slowly walked up and down the field to pick out sunflower seeds or pebbles, cursing when he saw a splash of Gatorade, which he said can hasten decay of the turf.
Mr. Compton seemed to know everyone and be known by all. The children refer to him, with awe, as “the field general,” because he brooks no nonsense. “Clear out of there!” he yelled to children encroaching on the turf out of turn. “Don’t eat near the grass!”
He can be loud and gruff, but as one old friend of his put it, “Sometimes you need someone loud,” and as one young player put it, “He makes me feel like a professional.”
Another side showed, too, when after a heartbreaking loss in regional playoffs, he walked with a teenager, hand over his shoulder, and said, “Son, you got no business crying, not after that game you played today.”
During practice, nobody even took notice of the sirens blaring on nearby streets, the nervous beam of a police helicopter’s searchlight.
Murders in Philadelphia jumped last year by 8 percent, to 406, giving it the highest per-capita homicide rate of the nation’s largest cities, and a shortage of male role models is often cited as a contributor to crime and drug use.
But on this field, more than 40 volunteer coaches are there every night during the season, putting nine teams, sorted by age and weight, through their paces. The teams have been frequent champions in the Pop Warner and other youth leagues, and are Frankford’s claim to fame throughout the city.
The players must keep a C average or better to play.
A burly man whose shaved head and neat ear-to-ear beard make him look even rounder than he is, Mr. Compton and his wife, Dorina, an administrative assistant with the city, have put potted flowers and seasonal decorations in front of their own house, a sharp contrast with the boarded-up buildings on either side.
The corner by their house, with a small food market, used to be a drug bazaar. But for the last 15 years it has been quiet, with none of the loitering hustlers visible a few blocks away. “I go right up to them and say, I don’t want to see you around my house,” Mr. Compton said.
Rick Ribera, 20, who stopped by the store, said that “a lot of the old guys here don’t get that respect, but with him it’s, ‘Yes, sir.’” Mr. Compton says he gets respect because “they know I’m cut from the same cloth.”
The Chargers teams were started 40 years ago by Bill Gambrel, 71, a building contractor whom Mr. Compton considers a second father. When Mr. Compton got out of prison in his early 20s, Mr. Gambrel gave him a job and an apartment.
Mr. Gambrel still shows up every evening to watch the games.
For years, the Chargers played on scraggly, bumpy ground. The new field was paid for with city money and donations from more than a dozen organizations. Mr. Compton was one of many who volunteered to help with construction.
Mr. Gambrel put him in charge of the field.
Matthew Herbert, 21, who played on the Chargers and now coaches, called the field “our little sanctuary,” where street disputes are left behind, and called Mr. Compton “Frankford’s uncle” because he has taken so many young men under his wing.
Mr. Compton, Mr. Herbert said, helped him stay out of trouble when he was younger. Once when Mr. Compton caught him cutting school, he said, “he grabbed me, gave me a little body shot to the ribs, talked to me and took me to school.”
“I never cut school again. I was too scared,” said Mr. Herbert, who now works as a bus driver.
Still, football does not save everyone from drugs and violence. Mr. Compton himself was a player who went astray. Once in prison, though, Mr. Compton said, he changed his ways. “I realized this isn’t for me, sitting in a small room and working for three cents a day.”
One particularly gratifying thing, Mr. Compton said, is that otherwise absent fathers show up at ball games.
“That’s enough to make a kid play extra hard,” he said. “That’s enough to turn to their dad with a smile, like, ‘Dad, look what I did.’”
Perhaps the father will realize, Mr. Compton said, that “man, his mom is doing all this, I’m not a part of this.”

You couldn't find a sadder story on a gloomy Monday

I have sort of been following this story, and the headline broke my heart. Isn't there someone out there missing this young man?

Still no ID for young man murdered Saturday in Oakland
From Staff Reports -- Article Last Updated: 12/17/2007 10:33:28 AM PST [Oakland Tribune]

OAKLAND - Homicide detectives and the Alameda County Coroner are
still trying to identify a young man, possible a 16-18-year-old teenager, found
shot to death early Saturday.
He had no identification on him; no one in Oakland has reported him missing and he had injuries to his hands, so fingerprints are difficult, Oakland Homicide Detective Sgt. Jim Rullamas said this morning.
"We've got nothing on him, no ID, no suspects, no motive for why he was shot," Rullamas said. "He looked young to me, between 16 and 18, he could be older," he said.
He was about 5 feet 6 inches tall, slender build, an African American with medium, light skin Rullamas said. He was wearing a black jacket and blue jeans, he said.
The victim was found in the 2700 block of Harold Street not far from the Fruitvale onramp to southbound I-580. A passerby saw the victim lying against a wooden fence beside the street about 3:15 a.m. Saturday. The other side of the street is the sound wall barrier for the freeway.
The victim could have been there for several hours, Rullamas said. It appears that he was shot there, not dumped, he said. The killing was Oakland's 117th homicide this year. Last year there had been 145 homicides on the same date.

Anyone with information about the shooting or who might be able to identify the victim can call Sgt. Rullamas at 510-238-6790 or the Alameda County Coroner's office, 510-268-7300. Police and Crime Stoppers of Oakland are offering up to $10,000 in reward money for information leading to the arrest of the killer.

truthfulness

If you have not read dooce.com, run, don't walk to her blog right now.

I will post this again, here, because it is so worth reading.

Both for the openness and truthfulness with which Heather relates her story and the way she describes how one feels when he/she needs to be honest with a friend about his/her life.

I love to read Heather's blog. Not everything she writes resonates. But I enjoy it all nonetheless.

I even stop by just to check out her pictures of Chuck...and I am not a pet person, certainly not a dog person. Chuck and I would probably get along great.

UPDATE: Heather's husband posted his side of dealing with chronic depression. It's worth the read. Truthfulness reigns. Thanks again to Heather and special thanks to Jon for their openness and willingness to share.

Courting the Middle Class

In case you haven't heard, Harvard doesn't want to be misunderstood. They are not just looking for qualified low-income applicants. They want qualified middle-income applicants as well.

Don't get me wrong, these new financial aid proposals are good and necessary ways to make college more affordable, even more, to make great universities appear more attainable to all students.

I only take mild issue with the fact that everything they do with regard to financial aid ends up on the front page (ok, an exaggeration) and on the radio and the news.

Princeton replaced loans with more grants quite a few years ago... I could look up the year, but I am not sufficiently interested. Suffice to say, for those who can get into the richer of the ivies, there are good financial aid packages. It is definitely worth the application fee to see if you can get in and the kind of package they will offer.

Don't let money ever stand in your way.

More Messages from the Universe

I swear the universe would text and im me if it knew how.
From Daily OM:

What We Are Made of: Choose Love
Love is often presented as the opposite of fear, but true love is not opposite anything. True love is far more powerful than any negative emotions, as it is the environment in which all things arise. Negative emotions are like sharks swimming in the ocean of love. All things beautiful and fearful, ugly and kind, powerful and small, come into existence, do their thing, and disappear within the context of this great ocean. At the same time, they are made of the very love in which they swim and can never be separated. We are made of this love and live our whole lives at one with it, whether we know it or not.
It is only the illusion that we are separate from this great love that causes us to believe that choosing anything other than love makes sense or is even possible. In the relative, dualistic world of positive and negative, darkness and light, male and female, we make choices and we learn from them. This is exactly what we are meant to be doing here on earth. Underlying these relative choices, though, is the choice to be conscious of what we are, which is love, or to be unconscious of it. When we choose to be conscious of it, we choose love. We will still exist in the relative world of opposites and choices and cause and effect, and we will need to make our way here, but doing so with an awareness that we are all made of this love will enable us to be more playful, more joyful, more loving and wise, as we make our way. Ultimately, the choices we make will shed light on the love that makes us all one, enabling those who have forgotten to return to the source.
This world makes it easy to forget this great love, which is part of why we are here. We are here to remember and, when we forget to remember again, to choose love.

All Brains Are the Same Color

A friend, who reads this blog (one of the three people), told me about an interesting lecture one of her professors gave in which he defended his belief about possible difference in intelligence based on race. His chief defense was that he was simply repeating comments about this made by a black friend of his who happened also to be a professor of economics. Well... as you can imagine, just because his black economist friend thinks there are research-based facts on this issue does not persuade me. I would be more inclined to even respond to that comment if his friend were a biologist or a psychologist or anyone more capable of conducting research and analysis in the study of the brain or intelligence.

I mean, really, I think these kinds of comments are so ignorant that I try to ignore them.

As my friend pointed out, though, these are comments being made by professors to policy students who may go on to use these arguments as the basis of making decisions to deny access to education to those "inferior brain" people (read people of color).

So, as much as it pains me to take this seriously, every time I come across some good research, I have been sending it along.

This op-ed trumps everything I have found so far. It's fabulous because it directly takes on all of the specious claims and studies with other studies.

Read it. It's worth it. Yes, I gave you three links to the same article. That's just how valuable I think it is!

24 hour news fame

I went to the gym yesterday morning. I am still trying to get the routine just right; I have headphones now so that I can watch something on the little tvs as I exercise. But I haven't mastered the cable television schedule. So, there I was stuck in morning "news" show hell.

Every channel was doing its best to give this poor young man (yes, there is a wikipedia entry on the tragedy) as much fame, much more than the infamous fifteen minutes, as it possibly could with little thought to the countless other souls who are contemplating how to make their marks on the world.

Disgusted, I finally opted for a sitcom. I dislike most modern sitcoms (that is to say, I Still Love Lucy, etc.).

That is not to say that I don't think we shouldn't discuss the issues that drive young people to these drastic actions or that we shouldn't continue to debate the usefulness of relatively easy access to weapons. I just don't think that the spotlight coverage is doing anything to further the important discussions our society needs to be having.

I could go on and give statistics, but it should not be necessary... we should care enough to find out. There are lots of kids like Robert out there either already on their own or about to be on their own. If you want to help, Family Builders (of which I am a board member) is doing terrific work to find permanent connections for youth before they leave the foster care system. If you are not in a position to take in someone in need, please offer financial support to the organizations who find families who can take them in.

Hard to Love People

I thought about calling this post "the conversations that go through my mind" -- it's a subtitle.

I was on the bus this morning, reading my book, not thinking about anything in particular when a woman flagged the bus down.

First, she was irritated that the bus driver did not stop right in front of her. She was carrying a yellow card that said LIFT in all capitals. Yellow, read neon. She was not in a wheelchair, she was pushing a little cart. She was white.

I point these two facts out only because it has been my experience that the bus drivers will invariably stop in front of the non-white bus patron regardless of where he/she is standing; that is to say that if the non-white person is four feet from the line of people waiting at the bus stop, that's where the bus driver will stop. This is an aside, but it is an important part of the action.

By the time the bus stopped, not right in front of her and didn't open the back door especially for her, she was already irritated.

I fully admit that I don't know what was truly going through her head, but it's my blog and it's my story, so I am going to put whatever thoughts I want to in her head, and she will have to read the blog and refute it in comments if she (or anyone else) has a problem with it.

This lady, let's call her Mabel for the sake of not having to say the lady with the LIFT card, exhibited her irritation by yelling loudly what she wanted. Mabel is the kind of impatient old lady who is CONVINCED that she is always getting the short end of the stick and not nearly the amount of respect that anyone her age should be accorded. Wildly waving the card, and yelling, we all became involved in waiting for the bus driver to get her on the bus.

I had a very visceral response to Mabel's sense of entitlement, her irritation and her sense that she is not getting and never has gotten her due. In many ways, she is both my mother and the person I desperately NEVER want to be. She is the spector of the person I might be someday that keeps me up at night. She is the reason I try to bring perspective to what I experience so that I don't fall into the depth.

Did I forget to mention that before Mabel ever got on the bus, she also was motioning to me to let me know that I was sitting in HER seat and that I better move. Point, point, wave, wave = get out of MY handicap seat, lady.

So, when Mabel wanted to get off the bus, pushed the button and started yelling about how this was her stop and she needed help to get off, I wanted to crawl out of my body. I was afraid I might start clawing the doors to get off that damn bus. I didn't want to hear her say it one more time. And, worst of all, I needed to get off at this stop too. Who would go first? What indignity would I have to face if I got off first or violated anymore of Mabel's rules?

I am sitting on the bus, or at this point standing on the bus, with many various thought lines churning through my mind. My first instinct was to feel irritated back at her. I sized up her insecurity and the fact that she had used this "I always get the least respect, least this, least that" attitude immediately. I tried to soften this thought by composing very calm responses to Mabel that would counsel her about it would be easier to get what you want by being nice.

I was horrified at myself at this point. Glad that no one could read my mind on the bus. Thinking about all those awful comments on the newspaper where there are no filters because no one can see you.

It wasn't that long of a bus ride, but it was long enough to process these emotions.

Ultimately I did find my way to compassion.

I left the bus with the realization (again) that loving nice people is easy, being compassionate to the downtrodden is easy, but having compassion and loving those hard to love people is what we are really challenged to do.

It was a lesson I was needing to remember and the universe delivered it right on cue.

connecting the dots?!

Ok, ok... I know I have said this is a must read before, but this really is a must read.

I got this far before I had to blog it:

A prosecutor explained the theory to the jury at Mr. Holle’s trial in Pensacola
in 2004. “No car, no crime,” said the prosecutor, David Rimmer.
“No car, no consequences. No car, no murder.”

The thing is, if you believe this simplistic logic, then you must also believe that every murder weapon is just like the car. No gun, no crime. No gun, no murder. Lalalalala

Certainly if any prosecutor used that line of reasoning, his/her ass would become the target of every card-carrying NRA member.

Well, as a car owner, let me affix the target to this prosecutor.

When "justice" becomes "vengeance" or just "get anyone you can," I simply cannot support it.

Terry Snyder, whose daughter Jessica was the victim in Mr. Holle’s case, said Mr. Holle’s conduct was as blameworthy as that of the man who shattered her skull.
“It never would have happened unless Ryan Holle had lent the car,” Mr. Snyder said. “It was as good as if he was there.”

I know that crime and murder are horrible events and that the victims' families feel completely justified in wanting blood. That is why they are not prosecutors.

I really want to believe in JUSTICE, that is Justice with a capital J. You know, the kind that actually takes into account blame, responsibility and restitution. I just don't think that is what our justice system does, maybe ever has.

Innocence lost

It is, indeed, truly sad to see that the LA transit system feels the need to install turnstiles... there was something uniquely Southern California about not having this on the metro. It is a sense of community. A belief that the person next to you really would help you if you needed it. We still open doors, hold elevators and greet our fellow citizens. And we trust each other and the powers that be trust us to follow the rules: stop at red lights, allow pedestrians to walk, pay for our metro ticket.

Though I don't live in SoCal anymore, I'd like to think that it runs through my veins.

It irritates me to no end to be right behind someone who half opens a door for him/herself to enter and then lets the door slam in my face.

I test my fellow pedestrians on the way to work... I greet them all with a cheery GOOD MORNING. Most mornings I get 90% of them to respond...but it is almost never the other way around, where I would get to choose or not to respond to a stranger greeting me. Invariably I can tell before I get to the person on the street whether or not he/she will respond. It's a cultural thing (read color...black folks always respond and almost always with a smile), and it's a generational thing -- anyone over 60 responds, again almost always happily. There are those I catch off guard who respond a greeting hastily with no trace of a smile. And there are those that surprise me... the teenagers, the hurried/scared looking person... but it's still me initiating contact.

Where I grew up, when I was growing up there, people spoke to you no matter what. If you were standing in a line, by the end of your wait you would know a substantial amount of information about the person in front or behind of you, except his/her name.

You can maintain your anonymity and still be polite and even friendly. You are not giving anything up by greeting people you don't know. If we could get past that fear and believe in each other and ourselves enough to follow basic rules, I wonder if civility could have a resurgence.

Perhaps...but I still haven't written my piece on the comments on the online newspapers...

brewing, stirring, waiting

So, I have been working on, at least in my mind, on a long, long piece titled "Se Solicita Esclavos" which means, for those of you are not in the Spanish know, Slaves Wanted.

It's a harsh title. Purposefully.

Perhaps that is why it has been so hard to put pen to paper.

I will rant a little here anyway.

So, we are educating more non-English speakers than ever in our history?
---Just where are the facts to back up this claim??
---Has anyone who says and writes these claims ever studied the history of public education in the United States. For your information, compulsory and free public education resulted from a desire to Americanize immigrants who were from non-English speaking countries (read German, mostly).
--Oh, and by the way, when we count the number of non-English speakers, what we call English Language Learners (ELs or ELLs), has anyone stopped to check that we are counting accurately? I mean, it's fishy to me when I see lists of ELs whose primary language is listed as ENGLISH! If their primary language is English, just how are they ELs?? How many of those listed as ELs also have their primary language listed as English?

I could go on, but, hopefully, you get the picture.

The article to which this entry links gives the basics from the Pew Hispanic Center's latest round of polls around bilingualism, English acquisition in immigrants and their children who are from Spanish-speaking countries. It shines a little bit of light on the potentially inaccurate numbers of non-English speaking students being educated...

Why does it matter?

Well, in just about every newspaper article and so-called research paper, education reformers and anti-immigrant groups alike are blaming low test scores on non-English speaking students.

If you spend all your time blaming the students for why public education doesn't work, it will be very difficult to look for solutions beyond we don't have a moral responsibility to educate them, lock the doors or throw them out (even if they are citizens). Perhaps that is overstating the situation; on the other hand, perhaps it is not stating the issue forcefully enough.

Oh, and one last little piece of info, quite a few years ago, back in 1999 or 2000, the United States ranked as the fourth largest Spanish speaking country in the world. That was without Kansas and its xenophobic English only law.

Only in racist America would being bilingual be a negative thing.

update

Still waiting for one of the NPR shows to pick up this story, not holding out for Lou Dobbs to pick it up...

Migrant Thought of Own Kids in Rescue
Nov 28, 6:45 PM (ET)By AMANDA LEE MYERS

PHOENIX (AP) - An illegal immigrant who gave up his long walk into the U.S. to help a boy whose mother was killed in a van crash in the desert said Wednesday that he never thought of leaving the child.

"I am a father of four children. For that, I stayed," Manuel Jesus Cordova Soberanes said in Spanish from his home in the Mexican state of Sonora. "I never could have left him. Never."

Authorities said Cordova may have saved the life of 9-year-old Christopher Buztheitner, whose mother was killed when their van ran off a cliff in a remote area north of the Mexican border on Thanksgiving Day.

A spokeswoman for the Mexican consulate in Nogales said the office is working to obtain a short-term visa for Cordova so he can come to Arizona and be recognized for his actions.

The 26-year-old bricklayer was two days into his walk and about 50 miles from Tucson when he saw the boy, who had walked away from the crash.

In a telephone interview with The Associated Press from his home in Magdalena de Kino, Cordova said Christopher had scrapes on his leg and was dressed in shorts despite the desert cold.

The boy had his dog with him and was holding a side mirror from the wrecked van.

Neither Cordova nor Christopher spoke the other's language, but the boy took the migrant to the edge of a canyon and showed him the accident site.

Authorities said Christopher and his mother, 45-year-old Dawn Alice Tomko, had been in the area camping. Tomko was driving on a U.S. Forest Service road when she lost control of the van, which landed 300 feet from the road.

By the looks of the mangled van down below, Cordova said, it was obvious the boy's mother had died. The child was distraught but did not cry.

"I felt frustrated and sad because I couldn't do anything for the mother," Cordova said. "And I didn't know how to console the boy, so I just sat next to him."

Cordova gave the boy the sweater he was wearing, climbed down to the van, and found chocolate and cookies to feed him.

He then built a bonfire, and the two hunkered down. The boy slept most of the night; Cordova kept watch and tended the fire.

Fourteen hours later, a group of hunters found the pair and called for help. U.S. Border Patrol agents took Cordova into custody, and Christopher was flown to a hospital in Tucson.

Christopher was reunited with family over the weekend; a message left with his uncle was not immediately returned Wednesday.

Santa Cruz County Sheriff Tony Estrada said Cordova is "very, very special and compassionate" and may have saved the boy's life.

Adriana Hoyos Rodriguez, the mayor of Magdalena de Kino, called Cordova a hero. "He left everything to save that boy," she said.

Cordova said he wanted to come to the United States to earn money to feed his four children, who live with their mother, and help support his girlfriend's three children. "I have two families, many mouths to feed," he said.

He said that even though his trip was thwarted, he is glad to be back home and wishes Christopher the best. "I hope he has a good life," he said.

another news round up

Reaction Updates Included

Since it is my blog, I am posting what I plan to read today... it amuses me to look at the list of things that call out to me.

Barely Getting By and Facing a Cold Maine Winter
just heartbreaking

Vindicated by DNA, but a Lost Man on the Outside
Wow...must read. It's hard to read, to know what "little" mistakes in the name of justice can do to a person's life; it's hard also to see how you can take a person's life without killing him. Hopeful, though, to see someone making his way despite all, one day at a time. For all those people who scorn those who end up back in jail after being exonerated, take a look, attempt to walk two steps in those shoes.

Farmyard Stills Quench a Thirst for Local Spirits
Although initially drawn to this article, I left it for second to last, wondering if I would really have the time or the inclination to actually read it. It was a pleasant surprise, first impressions were right... here's a taste, just in case you are doubting me

In trying to take advantage of generations of his family’s moonshining expertise, Mr. Fox, for instance, had no business plan, no employees and about $100 in his checking account. Only his timing was rich: the national demand for high-end spirits, especially vodka, has soared over the last several years, along with the general consumer craving for products with local flair.

Peace Corps Looks for Older Volunteers
somewhat interesting, you could live without it

Medical Examiner, Differing on Ground Zero Case, Stands His Ground
fascinating case, not truly fascinating article

Immigrant Workers Caught in Net Cast for Gangs

Gay Pastor in the Bronx Could Lose Her Collar
Better than the title implies.

The Geography of Hate
fairly disappointing...the title doesn't really relate to the kind of info in the article

How "What It Takes" Took Me Off Course
Not nearly as interesting as it could have been...

These stories caught my eye ...

Updates included.

I am catching up with my online NYTimes reading. I am a few days behind, but these are the stories I intend to read today, not sure what they say about where my head is.

Suit Over a Woman's Suicide at an Elite Private Hospital (so, morbid stories do call to me)

The Immigration Wilderness (no surprises here)
Tidbit to make you want to read the whole thing:

We are already seeing what a full-bore enforcement-only strategy will bring. Bias crimes against Hispanic people are up, hate groups are on the march. Legal immigration remains a mess. Applications for citizenship are up, and the federal citizenship agency, which steeply raised its fees to increase efficiency, is drowning in paperwork and delays. American citizens are being caught up in house-to-house raids by immigration agents.

The Real Rudy (ummm...liked the headline, hope I'll like the story)
Update: wow...not at all what I expected... but interesting and thought provoking nonetheless.

As a Life is Celebrated, a Death is Questioned (can't get away from these, the tragedy calls)

Foreign Fighters in Iraq Are Tied to Allies of U. S. (even though I can't really handle any more bad news about our country, I keep reading these)

Western Union Empire Moves Migrant Cash Home (there are so many sides to the immigration issue, got to get to as many as possible)
Update: no small part of keeping world peace...

Last year migrants from poor countries sent home $300 billion, nearly three
times the world’s foreign aid budgets combined.

Killing of Chicago Students Unsettles Campus Life (tragic, just tragic; my interest also is also picqued because my friend goes to school there)

Dems guilty of 'political cowardice' on immigration

I know I said I wasn't going to post whole articles anymore...clearly, I lied. This one is too good to pass up. Emphasis mine, of course. Teresa rocks, by the way.

Teresa Puente/Chicago Sun Times/November 26, 2007

Remember Willie Horton? He was the convicted rapist who was allowed out on a weekend pass and attacked another woman while Michael Dukakis was governor of Massachusetts. Playing to white America's fear of black men, Horton was used in a campaign ad against Dukakis when he ran for president in 1988. It probably cost him the election.

Fast forward almost 20 years. Illegal immigrants are the new Willie Hortons of this campaign season. They are being used to rile up American fears of Mexicans and the Latinization of the United States.

Republicans are having a field day taking a hard line and blaming illegal immigrants for everything wrong with this country. Democrats, afraid they will also lose big, are too sheepish to take a stand on immigration.

"It's a kind of political cowardice," said Joshua Hoyt, executive director of the Illinois oalition for Immigrant and Refugee Rights. "We need people to speak the truth on these issues and not run scared."

Instead of bashing Republicans, who won't change their hard line on immigration, immigrant advocates are now going after U.S. Rep. Rahm Emanuel, Democratic chief strategist, who they say has betrayed the immigrant community.

They're furious Emanuel has called immigration the new "third rail of politics," a topic so charged it could result in political death. They are running ads in Spanish, Polish and Korean slamming Emanuel.

"There's a lack of leadership. There's a lack of action," said Young Sun Song, a community organizer with the Korean American Resource and Cultural Center in Chicago.

Emanuel said Democrats will not give up on immigration reform. But immigrant advocates charge he is backtracking. Sen. Hillary Rodham Clinton is doing it, too. First she kind of said yes, then she said no on giving driver's licenses to illegal immigrants, an idea proposed and then nixed by New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer.

Clinton and Congress need to stop flip-flopping and propose real solutions. They failed to pass comprehensive immigration reform this year. As a result, we have chaos with states and cities proposing everything from asking landlords to play immigration police to the driver's license proposal.

Yes, we do need secure borders. Nobody is calling for open borders. Yes, we also need comprehensive immigration reform to legalize many of the people who are law-abiding and contributing to our economy. So what's the alternative?

Kick out all the illegal immigrants in a nationwide raid. Practically, that won't work, and it would have a devastating effect on our economy. Are you willing to pay $5 for a head of lettuce? Are you willing to pay $12 for a sandwich? This is the kind of inflation we could see without the illegal immigrant work force.

Another cost: Namby-pamby politicians risk losing the legal immigrant vote.

The number of legal immigrants applying for citizenship doubled to 1.4 million in fiscal year 2007. Many have illegal immigrant relatives and are likely to vote for candidates who support amnesty for their families.

Immigrants and their children are and always will be part of the American fabric. For the first time this year, the Census Bureau found two Latino surnames -- Garcia and Rodriguez -- are among the top 10 most common last names in the United States. In the Chicago area, two-thirds of the Latino population are citizens.

Most Americans are ashamed of the way immigrants have been treated in the past -- from Japanese internment to bigotry against the Irish and the Italians.

We need a real leader to step forward, one who isn't afraid to defend immigrants. We need a leader to remind us how immigrants have -- and will -- strengthen our, and their, homeland.

Will this story make it to Lou Dobbs?

I doubt it very sincerely. So in the interest of balance, I present it to you.

Illegal Immigrant Rescues Boy in Desert
Nov 23, 8:47 PM (ET)By TERRY TANG

PHOENIX (AP) - A 9-year-old boy looking for help after his mother crashed their van in the southern Arizona desert was rescued by a man entering the U.S. illegally, who stayed with him until help arrived the next day, an official said.

The 45-year-old woman, who eventually died while awaiting help, had been driving on a U.S. Forest Service road in a remote area just north of the Mexican border when she lost control of her van on a curve on Thanksgiving, Santa Cruz County Sheriff Tony Estrada said.

The van vaulted into a canyon and landed 300 feet from the road, he said. The woman, from Rimrock, north of Phoenix, survived the impact but was pinned inside, Estrada said.

Her son, unhurt but disoriented, crawled out to get help and was found about two hours later by Jesus Manuel Cordova, 26, of Magdalena de Kino in the northern Mexican state of Sonora.

Unable to pull the mother out, he comforted the boy while they waited for help.

The woman died a short time later.

"He stayed with him, told him that everything was going to be all right," Estrada said.

As temperatures dropped, he gave him a jacket, built a bonfire and stayed with him until about 8 a.m. Friday, when hunters passed by and called authorities, Estrada said. The boy was flown to University Medical Center in Tucson as a precaution but appeared unhurt.

"We suspect that they communicated somehow, but we don't know if he knows Spanish or if the gentleman knew English," Estrada said of the boy.

"For a 9-year-old it has to be completely traumatic, being out there alone with his mother dead," Estrada said. "Fortunately for the kid, (Cordova) was there. That was his angel."

Cordova was taken into custody by Border Patrol agents, who were the first to respond to the call for help. He had been trying to walk into the U.S. when he came across the boy.

The boy and his mother were in the area camping, Estrada said. The woman's husband, the boy's father, had died only two months ago. The names of the woman and her son were not being released until relatives were notified.

Cordova likely saved the boy, Estrada said, and his actions should remind people not to quickly characterize illegal immigrants as criminals.

"They do get demonized for a lot of reasons, and they do a lot of good. Obviously this is one example of what an individual can do," he said.

Happy Thanksgiving

I was hoping it would just pop up perfectly, but the text is hard to read.

Here's what it says...

I have been counting my blessings.

The greatest of these are my friends.

Have a wonderful holiday!

But, if you click on the picture, you have the power to make it bigger.

Readers = friends
even if you are a lurker... I lurk plenty of blogs and feel as close to those bloggers as I do to some of my friends.

Cleaning out the drafts folder...

There are a lot of stories I bookmarked to write about... it doesn't look like I will have time to write about it and I am tired of posting the whole article, so these are just pointers.

Some are for reading.

Hope this link still works, this story was very satisfying.

Some are for listening.

And, then, there is the story of the half-marathon.

There are more recent drafts, but they haven't made it all the way to the computer yet.

Oh, and there are EVEN older drafts... I guess I will have to work on those soon.

Alexander and I Need to Compare Notes...

You know those mornings when you wake up and the little voice says, stay home. It's not quite a premonition. In fact, it feels like that inner teenager just wanting to be a slacker. So, you drag yourself out of bed and face the day when you really should have stayed put.

The pounding headache should have made a greater impression on me, but since I had a doctor's appointment at noon anyway...got to the bus stop and waited and waited and waited. Finally a bus appears, and I realized that I didn't have my bus pass... only one five dollar bill. In all that waiting I could have A) walked the rest of the way to work, or B) bought something to break that bill. I checked my change purse and there were exactly the number of quarters I needed for the bus fare... seven. Magic. I guess I was meant to be on my way to work.

I barely made it to the appointment on time, just poor planning, I guessed. When I got there, it turns out there was a pile of paperwork problems. Fifteen or twenty minutes, the physical therapist decided we should have the appointment anyway because who knew when there would be another one available. I thought maybe my luck was turning around. When I went to pay the copay, I realized that I had left my debit/bank card in the atm this morning.

I spent quite a bit of time trying to cancel my card and finding out I would have to wait two weeks to get a new one and that it would cost me... on the other hand, no one had picked it up and charged my life away... now that debit cards can be used as visa's with just a swipe, my entire savings could have been blown at McDonalds. Looking for silver linings...

I decided to take my sore neck to the masseuse. The first place had no appointments available, but the second did. Score. Now my luck was really turning around. I felt so good after the massage, I went grocery shopping, did some laundry and bought myself the first food I had eaten all day. I was happy to be putting the bad day behind me.

Then a knock at my door... a neighbor coming to tell me that a bus had just hit my car and took off. Lucky that I have neighbors who know who I am, notice what is going on outside and bother to call the police. I met the sheriff at my car... I had to take the parking spot on the street today, the one I resist just because other cars have been hit. Usually it is because they are driving too fast and can't negotiate the bump. This was some bus driver who took a wrong turn and was trying to make a three point turn on my teeny tiny street.

I resisted the temptation to march down to the store and buy myself dessert. I met some nice neighbors and had positive interaction with law enforcement. Not sure how I will get to Thanksgiving, but I am sure it will all work out in the end. It certainly was the icing on the cake.

Next time, I wake up with that feeling that I should stay home, I will.

ummm

Does thinking about blogging, checking the counter stats or just checking to see that the blog is still there count as blogging?

Because if it does, then I have been blogging up a storm.

Seriously...I have at least five drafts started...and at least another thirteen in my head.

Soon...some or all will make it to the published stage.

I am saying is somewhat publicly to try to force myself to do it.

10 (universities) That Get It (green)

SIERRA
November/December 2007

10 That Get It

By Jennifer Hattam

#1 Oberlin College (Oberlin, Ohio, 2,800 students)

Oberlin College's environmental accomplishments are music to a tree hugger's ears. A third of the food served in its dining halls is produced locally, the school hosts the first car-sharing program in Ohio, student activity fees subsidize public transportation, and half of its electricity comes from green sources. A real-time monitoring system tracks 17 dorms and displays how much juice all those laptops, blenders, and iPod chargers are burning at any moment. Last spring Oberlin held its first ecofriendly commencement, with biodegradable utensils and programs printed on 100 percent recycled paper.

#2 Harvard University (Cambridge, Massachusetts, 20,000 students)
This Ivy League exemplar is a front-runner in getting the most structures certified by or registered for the U.S. Green Building Council's Leadership in Energy and Environmental Design (LEED) standards. A $12 million loan fund provides interest-free financing for ecofriendly projects--such as installing motion-sensor lights in classrooms and converting a recycling truck to run on waste vegetable oil from one of the dining halls. Such efforts generate enough savings to pay back the loan.

#3 Warren Wilson College (Swannanoa, North Carolina, 850 students)
This small Southeast star wears its environmental ethos on its sleeve and backs it up with a sustainably managed farm, garden, and forest that provide food and lumber for the campus; streetlamps that reduce light pollution; and community service as an integral part of the curriculum.

#4 University of California system (ten locations, 214,000 students)
When one of the richest state's largest employers approves a system-wide green policy, the benefits are going to be big. The University of California has pledged to generate ten megawatts of renewable power by 2014, increase use of low- to zero-emission vehicles by 50 percent by 2010, and achieve zero waste by 2020 at its ten campuses. While UC Davis improves its agricultural sustainability, UCLA fights gridlock with a bicycle master plan that has increased ridership by 50 percent. The newest campus, UC Merced, received the second-highest LEED rating for its first building complex; the oldest, UC Berkeley, has a certified organic kitchen in one of its dining halls and a new major in society and environment.

#5 Duke University (Durham, North Carolina, 12,800 students)
The Blue Devils are turning green, mandating certification by the U.S. Green Building Council for all new construction, improving on-campus bike trails, collecting 17 types of recyclables, and pouring money into wind and small hydropower projects.

#6 Middlebury College (Middlebury, Vermont, 2,400 students)
The school that spawned the national Step It Up protests against global warming is all about energy--in both senses of the word. Students lobbied hard for the $11 million biomass plant now being built, which will be a big player in making Middlebury College carbon neutral by 2016. They've also convinced residence halls to lower their thermostats two degrees in the winter; exchanged more than 2,000 incandescent lightbulbs for energy-efficient ones; and worked with the college's ski facility, the Snow Bowl, to offset its carbon dioxide emissions. Wood used in on-campus construction comes from sustainable, local forestry operations, and a ten-kilowatt wind turbine provides power to Middlebury's recycling facility, which has helped divert more than 55 percent of the college's waste since 1994.

#7 Berea College (Berea, Kentucky, 1,600 students)
The first interracial and coeducational college in the South is staying ahead on environmental issues too. Berea College is perhaps best known (at least in sustainable circles) for its Ecovillage, a housing complex for students and their families that incorporates passive-solar design elements, heavy-duty insulation, efficient appliances and fixtures, and rainwater collection. The ideals of the Ecovillage are reflected throughout this progressive Christian college, from the dining-hall menus that feature campus-raised produce and meat to the new solar array on the roof of the Alumni Memorial Building.

#8 Pennsylvania State University (24 locations, 83,700 students)
This Big Ten school gets big props for committing to a system-wide goal of LEED certification of all new buildings, a $10 million annual investment in retrofitting and efficiency, and a 17.5 percent decrease in greenhouse-gas emissions by 2012.

#9 Tufts University (Medford, Massachusetts, 8,800 students)
Home of the first university environmental policy in the country, this OG (original green) school keeps itself current with solar panels on its newest residence hall, energy-saving motion sensors on campus vending machines, and an electric tractor to mow its organically tended baseball field.

# 10 Carnegie Mellon University (Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, 10,000 students)
You'd expect innovation from a school renowned for its tech programs, and Carnegie Mellon University delivers with student-designed green roofs on several buildings, what it claims was the country's first ecofriendly dorm, and a collaborative research center with a modular raised-floor system that doubles the amount of fresh air circulating in the building.

Columbus Day Revisited (at least in my mind)

As I struggle to keep my composure with the growing hate-mongers (and war-mongers), it is heartening to see that at least one other person, and someone with the ability to say it loud and proud, sees that scapegoating the undocumented isn't helping. Now, we just need to stand up to the hypocritical war-mongers, too, who would have us invade Iran in a pre-emptive strike while simultaneously telling Turkey they have no right to go after "terrorists" (yes, we labeled them, too, lest it look like that unmentionable -- civil war) in their own backyards. Ahhh... the title resonated on many levels too.

I realize that I no longer need to reprint entire articles from the NY Times because now everyone can see them whenever, for no fee, but this one was just begging for some emphasis adding. So, here goes...

October 22, 2007 --NY TIMES Editorial
Ain’t That America

Think of America’s greatest historical shames. Most have involved the singling out of groups of people for abuse. Name a distinguishing feature — skin color, religion, nationality, language — and it’s likely that people here have suffered unjustly for it, either through the freelance hatred of citizens or as a matter of official government policy.

We are heading down this road again. The country needs to have a working immigration policy, one that corresponds to economic realities and is based on good sense and fairness. But it doesn’t. It has federal inertia and a rising immigrant tide, and a national mood of frustration and anxiety that is slipping, as it has so many times before, into hatred and fear. Hostility for illegal immigrants falls disproportionately on an entire population of people, documented or not, who speak Spanish and are working-class or poor. By blinding the country to solutions, it has harmed us all.

The evidence can be seen in any state or town that has passed constitutionally dubious laws to deny undocumented immigrants the basics of living, like housing or the right to gather or to seek work. It’s in hot lines for citizens to turn in neighbors. It’s on talk radio and blogs. It’s on the campaign trail, where candidates are pressed to disown moderate positions. And it can be heard nearly every night on CNN, in the nativist drumming of Lou Dobbs, for whom immigration is an obsessive cause.

In New York, Gov. Eliot Spitzer has proposed allowing illegal immigrants to earn driver’s licenses. It is a good, practical idea, designed to replace anonymous drivers with registered competent ones. In show after show, Mr. Dobbs has trained his biggest guns on Mr. Spitzer, branding him with puerile epithets like “spoiled, rich-kid brat” and depicting his policy as some sort of sanctuary program for the 9/11 hijackers. Someday there may be a calm debate, in Albany and nationally, about immigrant drivers. But with Mr. Dobbs at the megaphone, for now there is only histrionics and outrage.

Let’s concede an indisputable point: people should not be in the country illegally. But forget about the border for a moment — let’s talk about the 12 million who are already here. What should be done about them?

A. Deport them all.

B. Find out who they are. Distinguish between criminals and people who just want to work. Get them on the books. Make them pay what they owe — not just the income, Social Security, sales and property taxes they already pay, but all their taxes, and a fine. Get a smooth legal flow of immigrants going, and then concentrate on catching and deporting bad people.

C. Catch the few you can, and harass and frighten the rest. Treat the entire group as a de facto class of criminals, and disrupt or shout down anyone or any plan seen as abetting their evildoing.

Forget A. Congress tried a version of B, but it was flattened by outrage.

And so here we are at C. It’s a policy that can’t work; it’s too small-bore, too petty, too narrow. And all the while it’s not working, it can only lead to the festering of hate. Americans are a practical and generous people, with a tolerant streak a mile wide. But there is a combustible strain of nativism in this country, and it takes only a handful of match tossers to ignite it.

The new demagogues are united in their zeal to uproot the illegal population. They do not discriminate between criminals and the much larger group of ambitious strivers. They champion misguided policies, like a mythically airtight border fence and a reckless campaign of home invasions. And they summon the worst of America’s past by treating a hidden group of vulnerable people as an enemy to be hated and vanquished, not as part of a problem to be managed.

Fish Cakes

Yum.

It's a comforting and familiar taste besides being very tasty. My taste buds exalt -- and my mind is filled with memories:
My favorite hole-in-the-wall restaurant, the one that I lost in the divorce.
The wonderful women in their odd wardrobe choices who knew exactly what I wanted.

This was where I rushed when I needed comfort; where it didn't matter that he would sit silently across from me. There were plenty of people to keep me busy, making up stories in my head.

For a while I was glad not to go there, my first Thai restaurant, because I pictured him there with all the other women. Nothing was sacred to him, certainly not this place, one place I cold remember fondly as a foundation of our relationship until I thought of him there with the others.

Later, at some point when we were still communicating, he told me that he went there without me and the ladies asked for me.

Taking a Closer Look

It's so important to get under and beyond the rhetoric.

I am sure that there aren't any anti-immigrants reading this blog, but here's some more ammunition, just in case you needed it. As usual, the emphasis is mine.

UC study links immigration, health
THE OAKLAND TRIBUNE, October 20, 2007
Sarah Terry-Cobo, STAFF WRITER

BERKELEY — The University of California, Berkeley, released a landmark report on Monday providing data that suggest immigrants, particularly of Latin American origin, significantly contribute to the work force but are harmed due to lack of health care coverage.

This comes just days before the U.S. Congress failed to override President George W. Bush's veto of SCHIP, a health insurance plan to cover low-income children as well as undocumented immigrants.

UCLA and UC Berkeley schools of public health, the UC's office of the President and
the Health Initiative of the Americas are the three agencies that conducted the
research for "Migration, Health and Work: The Facts Behind the Myths," using
U.S. census data and with financial assistance from the California Endowment and
Mexico's Ministry of Health.

"What this report is showing, unfortunately, is that immigrants and those who come from Mexico and Latin American countries are absorbing the most difficult jobs and are facing the highest job related deaths," said Xochitl Castaneda, director of the Health Initiative of the Americas, a program of the UC Office of the President.

Mexican immigrants make up nearly one-third of U.S. population, but because they are usually employed in dangerous occupations — like farming and construction — they account for 44 percent of all immigrant workers who die on the job or as a result of an on-the-job injury, the report states.

Professor Steven P. Wallace, associate director of the UCLA Center for Health Policy Research, School of Public Health, described some of the findings of the research.

"Despite taking the large number of dangerous jobs in the country, (immigrants) are not offered the basic necessities such as health insurance, where they are literally putting their life on the line," he said.

In particular, Mexican immigrants often work at low-wage jobs that provide little or no insurance. Nationally, about one-fifth of Mexican immigrants in sectors like construction, agriculture and service industries have insurance, the report states.

In addition, the report notes that Latin American immigrants in general are in better overall health than most non-Latino whites, but their health declines the longer they reside in the U.S. This is most likely due to inadequate access to services as well as lack of funds to pay for prevention and treatment.

"Immigrants have health capital," Wallace said. "There needs to be a concern with adequate levels of health care services so they can maintain the level of health," they had when they entered the country.

More statistics from: "Migration, Health and Work: Facts behind the Myths."
-One in four workers in California are Latino immigrants.
-One in five employed men in California (ages 18-64) are Mexican immigrants.
-Eight in 10 agricultural workers in California are Mexican immigrants.
-94 percent of Mexican immigrant men in the U.S. are actively employed.
-One in four Mexican immigrant adults live in families that are below the federal poverty level.
-"Mexican immigrants report fewer chronic conditions overall, spend fewer days in bed because of illness and have lower mortality rates than U.S.-born non-Latino whites."
© 2000-2006 ANG Newspapers

The Clouds Are Omninous

Threatening, dark and looming. [I don't have an umbrella; not sure if I own one right now.] But I am not really worried about whether those dark clouds are headed my way or have already passed through here.

I love the wind. I don't care what it's carrying. Wind makes me believe in renewal or just new, not what was here before. Bring it on, anything new. Anything but this vague melancholy that is not attached to any particular situation or memory.

It is just that persistent desire to cry -- to let loose, to cleanse, to rid myself of whatever is going on inside me right now. It is a craving for sad songs and movies and stories.

But as I read those sad stories, I don't cry. The tears well but they don't fall. They just cloud my vision.

A deep sadness, a hole in my heart opens, I wonder: Why did I read that?

The sadness burns like pain and a profound sense of helplessness and hopelessness invades my soul.

How will I find the will to keep looking life in the face?

These things happen, there are bad people and bad thing and life like a train bearing down on you has no ability to break. Barely slows as it tramples your now lifeless body.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, face the next day.

You chose to read those stories. You wanted more, you couldn't turn your head or even avert your eyes.

I am afraid it will harden me, but maybe that is just wishful thinking.

[The food is helping me catch up with the two vodka drinks I had at the gallery reception. The soft haze at the corners of my eyes has worn off and my legs are no longer wobbly.]

The rain started. I guess the clouds were headed my way. No worries, I don't melt, even when I want to.

Scene on the Street

It's started to drizzle and the wind is blowing. Howling really, in spurts. Everyone is hurrying to his/her destination with or without an umbrella or a newspaper as impromptu rain shade. Except one man who spots a pink plastic car on the ground. He picks it up and cradles it carefully -- tapping lightly on the roof. He looks down at it as though it was just the gift from the universe today, good as gold.

Real American Dreaming

If there were a way into the hearts of those "Americans" who daily rail against immigrants (they think that they are only against "illegals," but they are actually denigrating all immigrants and all of us who don't look like what they think Americans look like), maybe more examples of how immigrants understand the American Dream and act on it could do it.

I am going to just quote the entire article here because it is worth the read.

Immigrant gardeners provide seed money for college scholarships
Tyche Hendricks, Chronicle Staff Writer
Monday, October 15, 2007
Catalino Tapia came to the United States at age 20 with $6 in his pocket. He worked hard, as a baker and a machine operator, and eventually started his own gardening business. He and his wife bought a home in Redwood City and raised their two sons, putting the eldest through college.

Though he never studied beyond sixth grade, Tapia was so inspired to see his son, Noel, graduate from Boalt Hall School of Law at UC Berkeley that he decided to help other young Peninsula people make it to college. Now 63, the Mexican immigrant is giving back to the country he says has given him so much.

With legal help from his son, Tapia established a nonprofit corporation, the Bay Area Gardeners Foundation, and recruited a dozen other immigrant gardeners to join the board. This year, the foundation gave out nine scholarships of $1,500, almost double what it distributed in 2006, its first year.

With his callused hands and burly shoulders, the Michoacán native does not fit the typical image of a philanthropist. When Tapia approached the Silicon Valley Community Foundation for a grant to help strengthen the fledgling organization's capacity, he was told the agency had never seen a foundation started by gardeners before. "Well," he replied, "We'll be the first."

When most people think of a philanthropist, they are likely to think of a society matron or millionaire business mogul, said Manuel Santamaría, a program manager at the community foundation.

"In fact, taking tamales to the church potluck or reading in the classroom - all those little acts are philanthropic," said Santamaría. "Philanthropy means love of humankind. We've got to spin a much better view of what immigrants are contributing. ... And Catalino is taking it to a different level."

Tapia expresses a vision - of passing along the prosperity he has earned, drawing community members together for a shared goal and being accountable for the well-being of the next generation - that is eminently philanthropic.

"I believe the education of our young people isn't just the responsibility of their parents, especially in the Latino community where some parents work two or three jobs," he said. "It's our obligation as community leaders, because young people sometimes wander without guidance."

Many immigrant parents arrive with little schooling and don't always understand the importance of college, he said, but children who get an education can contribute much more to this country than those who don't.

One beneficiary, Gloria Escobar, 19, figured out early that college would be the key to her success. Her parents, educated as far as middle school in Mexico, were supportive but could offer little advice or financing. So Escobar, who lives at home in Redwood City, followed her sister to community college in San Mateo County. But the architecture classes she sought weren't available there.

A scholarship from the gardener's fund allowed her to enroll as well at City College of San Francisco - and cover the cost of the commute - where she is earning architecture credits that she hopes will help her transfer one day to Cal Poly or UC Berkeley.

"This was the first scholarship I've gotten," said Escobar. "It's something that would benefit a lot of kids. I know a lot of people in college who want to transfer, but they can't afford to."
At Cañada College, just over the hill from Tapia's home, most students, like Escobar, juggle their studies with part-time or full-time jobs, said President Tom Mohr. Even a modest scholarship can allow a student to spend fewer hours working and devote more time to studying, perhaps taking 12 units a semester instead of six, he said.

The Gardeners Foundation is a wonderful example for the students, Mohr said. "It's extraordinary to see a body of people who are struggling to make it in America also struggling for other people's children. ... Is that not grasping the American dream?"

Tapia is pleased to have a burbling fountain, a grandfather clock and a view of the bay from his Redwood City ranch house, but material comfort has never been enough to satisfy him. So over the years he and his wife, Margarita, have been involved with holiday food drives, neighborhood park cleanups, the North Fair Oaks Community Festival and now the scholarship fund.

Sitting at his dining room table, he tried to describe what prompted him to start the scholarship fund. He sprang up and walked into the den, where Noel's three diplomas are hung on the wall in great gilt frames: a B.A., an M.A. and a J.D.

"When he got his law degree, I was floating in the clouds," Tapia said. Suddenly his eyes brimmed with tears. "The more I thought about it, the more I wanted to do something. I got this idea that I could help other students go to college."

The gardeners raise money for the scholarship fund by hosting dinners and requesting donations from local businesses and their gardening clients. When it came to writing thank you notes, though, Tapia was self-conscious of his blocky grade-school penmanship, so he recruited neighborhood teenagers to help him.

San Mateo resident Valerie Constant, who has employed Tapia as her gardener for five years, said she and her husband now make annual contributions not only to Stanford, their alma mater, but the Gardeners Foundation.

"We've given to Catalino ... because we think it's such a fabulous thing he's done," she said. "I wish more people knew about it."

Another gardening client and scholarship donor is so excited about the fund, he's planning a cocktail party to invite his wealthy friends to donate.

The Gardener's Foundation is not the only source of private scholarships for Peninsula teens. The Silicon Valley Community Foundation administers several, as does the Chicana Latina Foundation in Burlingame. Then there are the big, competitive grants like the Gates Millennium Scholars and the Dell Scholars programs.

The Gardeners Foundation is one of the few, however, that doesn't ask whether a student is a legal resident. And that's a blessing for many immigrant students whose parents brought them to the United States illegally.

Tapia enthused about one such student, the daughter of a janitor and a hotel maid, who is attending Mills College with help from the foundation, among other scholarships.

"She has such intelligence and a tremendous desire to succeed," he said. "I think one day, I hope it happens, this country will open opportunities for students like that."

In Washington, Senate Democrats hope for a renewed debate later this fall on the DREAM Act, a long-stalled bill that would offer legal residence to undocumented students who grew up in the United States and are bound for college or the military. Closer to home, a bill dubbed the California Dream Act would have made some state financial aid available to undocumented college students, but Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger vetoed it Saturday.

For Latino high school students, the main group Tapia's fledgling foundation has reached so far, the need is great for financial help with college. Only 13 percent of U.S.-born Latino adults in California have a bachelor's degree, according to the nonpartisan Public Policy Institute of California. For immigrant Latinos, the figure is 5 percent.

Alberto Urieta, an 18-year-old from East Palo Alto, was born in the United States. His father, an electrician, died in an industrial accident when Urieta was 12. His mother works two jobs, at a day-care and a Red Lobster restaurant. Though frequent moves forced Urieta to switch schools several times, he managed to keep his grades up, and last month he started his first quarter at UC Santa Cruz, where he hopes to major in molecular biology.

"I guess I've got my father's ambition, because he came to this country and he got his high school education. I want to better myself just like he did," he said. "To receive a scholarship is so much help because the books are so expensive, but also it gives us a feeling that we're not alone; that someone wants us to make our dreams a reality."

That's what Tapia had in mind when he started the foundation from his dining room table.
So far the Gardeners Foundation has only publicized its scholarships through schools and community colleges in San Mateo County, but it is open to low-income students around the Bay Area, Tapia said. Applicants must have a GPA of 2.5 or better and commit to doing 20 hours of community service annually, he said.

"It's a little seed we're planting," he said. "And it will eventually grow a garden of students, and it will flower and bear fruit."

Resources
For more information on the Bay Area Gardeners Foundation:
E-mail: catalinotapia@sbcglobal.net
Write: Bay Area Gardeners Foundation, P.O. Box 3446,
Redwood City, CA 94064
Phone: (650) 670-2566
E-mail Tyche Hendricks at thendricks@sfchronicle.com.