Brown Girl Has Walked Into the Wild, Palms Open
~Barbara Jane Reyes
See how she lists. The body is bent as light, as wind will it.
And so you must tread light. Mind the rocks under foot. You must tread
slow.
There has been drought; see where water has long ago troughed, has
carved her.
See how she branches, twisting, her many hands reaching.
Her roots also reach, sweetened from reaching. When fire arrives, she
toughens.
She will slough away the thick. She will be slick, and dark beneath the
rough.
She will mimic the fire her bones remember. Know her bones glisten.
See how she rests. The body will fall, as time wills it.
See how it hollows, how her pieces return to earth.
And from her thick trunk, mushrooms cluster—
Her belly a nest of moss and poison.
When broken open, see what of her mother she has kept,
what of her father, what of the stars.
Thursday, September 27, 2018
Thursday, September 20, 2018
Poetry Thursday
Leaving
~Allison Adelle Hedge Coke
No matter how he wrested himself silent in night,
six days post-stroke he woke fluent in former languages,
backtracking this time here.
Mercy nurses, attendants, remedied in their own.
Once he registered, all he cawed out was
if it’s too far gone, we need to talk.
All of this, what I am, doesn’t know how to die.
All I know how to do is survive. All I ever done.
If it’s time, tell me, tell me, give me four days.
I’d like to have that blanket Dustin designed.
Damnit, I hate to leave this beauty, life.
On the fourth, came the Pendleton, delivered
right on time. His breath slowed, eased, then quit.
That was it.
After some hours the rest of us slept.
Some of us sleep still left.
~Allison Adelle Hedge Coke
No matter how he wrested himself silent in night,
six days post-stroke he woke fluent in former languages,
backtracking this time here.
Mercy nurses, attendants, remedied in their own.
Once he registered, all he cawed out was
if it’s too far gone, we need to talk.
All of this, what I am, doesn’t know how to die.
All I know how to do is survive. All I ever done.
If it’s time, tell me, tell me, give me four days.
I’d like to have that blanket Dustin designed.
Damnit, I hate to leave this beauty, life.
On the fourth, came the Pendleton, delivered
right on time. His breath slowed, eased, then quit.
That was it.
After some hours the rest of us slept.
Some of us sleep still left.
Wednesday, September 19, 2018
9.19
Since September 19, 2012, everything in my life is either pre-9/19 or post-9/19. The myriad of other cascading tragedies all fall underneath this day.
The sadness clouds my vision - and I never know if I should stop and cry, soldier on, tell people why it is a hard day, or stay in bed (or any combo of those actions).
Last year, the first year I was in a "real" job since Greg died, I took the day off. I could not predict what the emotions would be... being away from home and not having a ritual. I have either gone with my mother to church or gone in solidarity to church away from her. But church is not a safe or happy place for me, so it is not really an option.
This year, with a horrible deadline looming, I could not even entertain taking the day or even a few hours off.
It turns out that all the hard work I put into the project is for naught. My piece, such as it is, is done but it broke the system, so nothing works. Now those who should be fixing the problem are pointing fingers (at me, of course) instead.
At first I wanted to scream at them. But then I did my little pivot, and I thought: "At least I could scream at them if I wanted to." I am alive. I am breathing in and out and their pettiness cannot take that away from me, unless I let them.
Don't get me wrong, I am irritated. I am so irritated, angry, frustrated, exhausted (after putting in over 12 hours for the past two days and getting little to no sleep for the past three nights).
But, perspective is lending me a hand in bringing down my blood pressure.
This is the email that I want to send colleagues today:
"I will happily take the hit for [our project] not working. We can say I misunderstood or took it upon myself to implement a fix that was not appropriate, or whatever you want. But I have one condition: next time a colleague asks for your help with a project, stop and listen. Give that colleague an hour of your time. Don't say, "I don't know any more than you do." Or send the person away to someone else who will also throw up his/her hands. Answer emails. Stop long enough to figure out what the issue is before you dismiss it as not your problem.
I will take the fall. You can have my job if you like. It will not make [the project] work. It will not help in getting [the project] to work. But spending some time collaborating and assisting your colleagues just might make all of this work a little more smoothly."
Here is the part I also want to send but probably wouldn't:
"Six years ago today my brother died. He was the person I was closest to in the whole world. When he left this universe, he took parts of me with him that cannot be replaced. It was the worst day of my life. It irrevocably changed me.
Your pettiness in pointing fingers rather than helping or even accepting your part in how [the project] doesn't work today is so small compared to that loss."
Ok... out of my system, carry on, internets.
The sadness clouds my vision - and I never know if I should stop and cry, soldier on, tell people why it is a hard day, or stay in bed (or any combo of those actions).
Last year, the first year I was in a "real" job since Greg died, I took the day off. I could not predict what the emotions would be... being away from home and not having a ritual. I have either gone with my mother to church or gone in solidarity to church away from her. But church is not a safe or happy place for me, so it is not really an option.
This year, with a horrible deadline looming, I could not even entertain taking the day or even a few hours off.
It turns out that all the hard work I put into the project is for naught. My piece, such as it is, is done but it broke the system, so nothing works. Now those who should be fixing the problem are pointing fingers (at me, of course) instead.
At first I wanted to scream at them. But then I did my little pivot, and I thought: "At least I could scream at them if I wanted to." I am alive. I am breathing in and out and their pettiness cannot take that away from me, unless I let them.
Don't get me wrong, I am irritated. I am so irritated, angry, frustrated, exhausted (after putting in over 12 hours for the past two days and getting little to no sleep for the past three nights).
But, perspective is lending me a hand in bringing down my blood pressure.
This is the email that I want to send colleagues today:
"I will happily take the hit for [our project] not working. We can say I misunderstood or took it upon myself to implement a fix that was not appropriate, or whatever you want. But I have one condition: next time a colleague asks for your help with a project, stop and listen. Give that colleague an hour of your time. Don't say, "I don't know any more than you do." Or send the person away to someone else who will also throw up his/her hands. Answer emails. Stop long enough to figure out what the issue is before you dismiss it as not your problem.
I will take the fall. You can have my job if you like. It will not make [the project] work. It will not help in getting [the project] to work. But spending some time collaborating and assisting your colleagues just might make all of this work a little more smoothly."
Here is the part I also want to send but probably wouldn't:
"Six years ago today my brother died. He was the person I was closest to in the whole world. When he left this universe, he took parts of me with him that cannot be replaced. It was the worst day of my life. It irrevocably changed me.
Your pettiness in pointing fingers rather than helping or even accepting your part in how [the project] doesn't work today is so small compared to that loss."
Ok... out of my system, carry on, internets.
Thursday, September 13, 2018
ugh, frustration and exhaustion rant, feel free to skip on by
If I were to judge the amount of effort I should put into my work based on the amount of effort (and attention) my colleagues put into their work, then I should not have come to work today.
I should not address any issues facing my content areas until it is too late to do anything about the mistakes. I should, then, say that taking measures to rectify the mistakes would be too risky.
Finally, I should suggest that these are not truly issues, rather, whatever (and I mean whatever) is happening, is, in fact, a direct result of user error. User in this case refers exclusively to the person who has uncovered the mistake.
I am pissed. Can you tell?
In part, I am tired. I traveled all night, and came directly to work from the airport. I did not go home, I did not collect $200. I am coming off a few days reflecting the shortness of life and the choices we make to spend (or not) time with those we love.
I am exhausted, physically and emotionally. I am tired of being one of very few who cares about the outcome of our work.
And, my teacher voice dangerously near to my lips, I want to counsel my colleagues; I want to let them know in no uncertain terms that the time we spend making up excuses for why will not fix what is obviously not working would be better spent looking for a solution.
I often told my students when I was teaching that I preferred not to have the excuse. Excuses are/were completely and utterly meaningless to me.
Day two...
My first impulse is to look for another job. But then I remember that I have faced this issue before although not always in the same exact way.
I need to calibrate my reactions, I get it.
This situation is dangerously threatening to kill my post-vacation glow. I have managed to maintain it through some very trying situations, both personally and professionally, for a few weeks. I did this by straining to see the silver lining every time an obstacle appeared.
After some sleep, I am going to rededicate myself to see shining through these clouds. Wish me luck.
I should not address any issues facing my content areas until it is too late to do anything about the mistakes. I should, then, say that taking measures to rectify the mistakes would be too risky.
Finally, I should suggest that these are not truly issues, rather, whatever (and I mean whatever) is happening, is, in fact, a direct result of user error. User in this case refers exclusively to the person who has uncovered the mistake.
I am pissed. Can you tell?
In part, I am tired. I traveled all night, and came directly to work from the airport. I did not go home, I did not collect $200. I am coming off a few days reflecting the shortness of life and the choices we make to spend (or not) time with those we love.
I am exhausted, physically and emotionally. I am tired of being one of very few who cares about the outcome of our work.
And, my teacher voice dangerously near to my lips, I want to counsel my colleagues; I want to let them know in no uncertain terms that the time we spend making up excuses for why will not fix what is obviously not working would be better spent looking for a solution.
I often told my students when I was teaching that I preferred not to have the excuse. Excuses are/were completely and utterly meaningless to me.
Day two...
My first impulse is to look for another job. But then I remember that I have faced this issue before although not always in the same exact way.
I need to calibrate my reactions, I get it.
This situation is dangerously threatening to kill my post-vacation glow. I have managed to maintain it through some very trying situations, both personally and professionally, for a few weeks. I did this by straining to see the silver lining every time an obstacle appeared.
After some sleep, I am going to rededicate myself to see shining through these clouds. Wish me luck.
Poetry Thursday
A Tempest in a Teacup
~A. Van Jordan
Prospero
Assume, just for a moment,
I am denied a job
in the factory of my dreams
under the fluorescent lights
of a porcelain white foreman.
It’s orderly and neat.
I feed my family.
No one questions my face.
I raised my son in my likeness,
so he would never go unseen,
bobbing on a wave of expectation,
I set in motion with my back
put into my work, praying
for my country, blessed
with more of me, never worrying
about those who might die,
or those who did, trying
to stir a storm, trying
to stand where I’m standing.
~A. Van Jordan
Prospero
Assume, just for a moment,
I am denied a job
in the factory of my dreams
under the fluorescent lights
of a porcelain white foreman.
It’s orderly and neat.
I feed my family.
No one questions my face.
I raised my son in my likeness,
so he would never go unseen,
bobbing on a wave of expectation,
I set in motion with my back
put into my work, praying
for my country, blessed
with more of me, never worrying
about those who might die,
or those who did, trying
to stir a storm, trying
to stand where I’m standing.
Thursday, September 06, 2018
Poetry Thursday, transformations
Humdrum
~Carl Sandburg
If I had a million lives to live
and a million deaths to die
in a million humdrum worlds,
I’d like to change my name
and have a new house number to go by
each and every time I died
and started life all over again.
I wouldn’t want the same name every time
and the same old house number always,
dying a million deaths,
dying one by one a million times:
—would you?
or you?
or you?
~Carl Sandburg
If I had a million lives to live
and a million deaths to die
in a million humdrum worlds,
I’d like to change my name
and have a new house number to go by
each and every time I died
and started life all over again.
I wouldn’t want the same name every time
and the same old house number always,
dying a million deaths,
dying one by one a million times:
—would you?
or you?
or you?